Sunday, December 6, 2015

A Day in The Life

Hello world.  This is a day in the life; Wagner-style.  A day with kids is never the same as the day before but I would say today was a pretty typical day.  As typical as it gets.  Keep in mind, this is my "day off".  3 days a week I'm at my office working.  Honestly, it's less exhausting or mentally draining but I would choose a day with my kids over being in an office hand's down.  Here's my warning; there's probably going to be moments of TMI but that's the risk you take when you are a fly on the wall of my life for a day.

Friday, December 4th, begins around 7:45, sometimes as early as 6:45, rarely as late as 8.  Today, Arriah is the first awake.  She is the most beautiful little alarm clock filling my ears with "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star".  I guess it's time to get up.  I Mission Impossible my way out of bed so Gavin doesn't wake up.  Once I get into her room, I open the blinds to see what kind of day it is outside and let in some natural light.  I'm still not ready to be fully awake so I snuggle up with her giant teddy bear on the floor as she proceeds to tell me about her dream she saw.  Yes, saw.  Apparently a dream is an animal type thing.  I'm half convinced it's just the door handle on her door but it's hard to know for sure.  Sometimes she's scared of it, sometimes it's nice to her.  Trying to explain a dream to a 2 year old is harder than you would expect.

8:10 - Gavin wakes up.  We greet him with "good morning" and snuggles.  He's a happy boy.  We all go back to Arriah's room for diaper changes and to get Arriah in her big girl underwear for the day.  Might as well get her dressed too but I wouldn't dare even think about picking out her outfit or helping her put it on.  She does it all by herself, of course.



8:20 - Both Mommy and Arriah go pee in our "big girl pottys" just like how the rest of the world starts their day.  I decide to text my mom a picture of a bump Arriah has inside her lip.  She's had it for a few days and I don't know what it is.  My mom works for an endodontist so she she asks him and says she'll get back to me.    



8:25 - Then it's time to turn on the Christmas lights on our Christmas tree ('tis the season) and so begins the daily struggle of what's for breakfast.  She's not so much picky as she is 2.  It's especially hard with little-to-no food in the house.  Grocery shopping is on our To Do List for the day.  



8:30 - While Gavin plays happily in his Exercauser, we turn on some Christmas music.  Ya, we're pretty festive.  Who the heck is Parson Brown and why do we care?  Anyway, we decided on Honey Nut Cherrios for breakfast.  She, of course, drinks milk with her cereal.  I join her in a bowl of Cherrios and we share a banana.  Gavin tries a bite of the banana but isnt' into it.  

8:50 - Done with breakfast, quickly clean it up and attempt to get in the shower.  Isn't that cute?  As soon as I get to my room I realize I haven't made the bed yet, so I do that stopping midway through to remove a post-it note out of Gavin's mouth.  Arriah loves to help with the final touch of throw pillows.

9am - Finally turning the shower on and getting in.

9:15 - Mason comes home from job #1.  I'm done with the shower.  Gavin cried the whole time and Arriah jumps on the bed the whole time even though she knows she's not suppose to do that.  She finds a pack of Boogie Wipes and runs away with them with the intention of taking each one out one by one.  I chase after her and while trying to get them away from me she accidentally head butts me in the mouth.  Free lip fillers I guess?

9:20 - Mason and I start talking about work and I realize I have to call my dad.  20 minutes later I'm off the phone, have gotten dressed and brushed my hair still hoping to make it to the grocery store at some point today.  

9:50 - Mason leaves for job #2... I love my hardworking man. I start the getting ready process.  A few minutes of make up, then start to blow dry my hair but have to stop half way through because I'm not holding Gavin so he's crying and Arriah is all too quiet so I go check on her.  She has put on 3 or 4 different pairs of pants... and leggings.  

10:04 - Finally finished blow drying my hair.  Now time to set up Arriah with Doc McStuffins so I can put Gavin down for a nap.  He's tired and fussy.  I guess we'll postpone going to the grocery store until a little later in the day.  Big surprise but totally worth not having a fussy baby.  

10:14 - Gavin falls asleep and I load my arms full of everything I could possibly need for the next hour and try to leave the room without waking him up.  I go to the other bathroom to finish my make up only to notice Arriah has unrolled half the roll of toilet paper so she could wipe her own nose.  Where are those Boogie Wipes when you need em?

10:20 - My  mom's boss responds about what is on the inside of Arriah's lip.  Apparently it's a plugged up minor mucous gland.  
         
           "Totally harmless.  Usually they break open on their own.  If it persists, she probably should see someone.  It can be drained with a pin but Brittany shouldn't try it"

So there ya have it.  In case you or anyone else you know has ever had one, now you know.  I'll give it another day or two to see if anything changes on it's own.  It doesn't seem to be bothering her at all and she's getting over a cold so my feeling is that it will go away.  

10:40 - I'm all done getting ready and Gavin is still sleeping so Mommy and Arriah get some 1 on 1 quality time.  We read some books, sing some songs, and do some puzzles.





11:23 - My sweet boy is awake and happy!  Quick diaper change for Gav and Miss Independent puts on her own Pull Up and shoes.  We're trying to get out the door.

11:44 - Finally have everything loaded up.  Everything being: Gavin buckled into his car seat with a blanket and pacifier.  My shoes are on, I have my phone, purse, keys, diaper bag, water for me, and snacks and water for Arriah.  Pfew, that's tiring just to think about.  While getting into the car Arriah says "I'll protect you Gavin".  What a good big sister! (Even if there is nothing to currently protect him from, it's the thought that counts).

11:49 - Finally drive away from the house.  Only 26 minutes from wake up to exit.  Not bad.  

11:57 - Think to myself: "Two grocery stores with two kids under 3 in my future.  I'm going to need some coffee."




12:09 - We park at Trader Joe's, grab a cart and put Arriah in the seat with snacks and her water.  Put Gavin in the Ergo and as if I don't have enough to grab, don't forget your reusable bags!  *shake my head*  It was clearly not a mom who passed that law.  



We don't get too crazy with shopping because I have forgotten to take the stroller out of my trunk so I have no place to put all the groceries.  Good one Britt!  Meanwhile, Arriah snuggles with cookies in the checkout line.  



12:48 - Load everything and everyone back into the car.  Off to Safeway.  Naturally Gavin falls asleep like 3 minutes before we park.

1:05 - Mason calls me, he's home from job #2.  Long day for the poor guy (he was up at 2:30am!).  We park at Safeway and I decide to try the cart with the toy car on the front for the first time.  It's huge but Arriah will probably love it and that means Gavin will be able to ride in the seat part which makes him happy.  The seats are bigger on that cart and the buckle is broken so I guess I'll be holding him in the entire time.  Ugh.  



1:12 - After all the same prepping from the previous grocery trip we are finally heading into the store.  The kids are basically angels the whole time.  Gavin is smiling at any living thing that passes by and Arriah is making sure we don't crash with expert driving skills, even though we do once or twice.  Oops!  ;) We grab sandwiches at the deli for lunch so I don't have to make Mason and I something when we get home.  

1:58 - Back to the car, everyone and everything loaded up yet again.  Throw on some hand sanitizer and now finally going home.  

2:05 - Make it home and get Arriah straight to the potty.  She told me she had to pee at the store and I asked her to hold it.  I think she did.  Mason takes over from there so I can change Gavin's diaper, feed him and try for a nap.  No such luck.



2:19 - Gavin is adorable.  Awake... but adorable.  At least he's in a good mood and now maybe I can hope for a double nap time?  Mason is unloading the groceries (our deal is that I shop and he unloads and puts away)  I set Miss Arriah up with some lunch while he puts groceries away and I help.  Gavin plays happily on the floor as I scarf down my sandwich.  



2:36 - Arriah's done with lunch, gets cleaned up and picks out some books for nap time.  She chooses Honk if You Like Purple, Pond Buzz, and Llama, Llama, Red Pajama which quickly changes to Best Friends.  It's a later nap time than usual but today, better late than never?  That just means it's going to be a late night.  Super dad over here, hangs out with Gav while I read books with the princess.   

3:00 - Done reading with Arriah, go grab Gavin, quick diaper change for him and I just KNOW he's tired now so COME ON DOUBLE NAP TIME!  Sure enough, a little breast milk, some "Itsy Bitsy Spider" and a few minutes of rocking and he's out by 3:18.  FREEDOM!  Well, Arriah is still talking to herself and reading books in her room but she'll be sleeping soon.



3:10 - Help myself to some lovingly snuggled cookies and watch Groundhog Day.  Mason has a friend over and we all just hang out in the living room.  I attempt to start working on my blog but only get about 4 words in.  

4:00 - Gavin wakes up and
joins us in the living room.  Now it's time for Gavin and Mommy 1 on 1 time! He immediately finds some sort of wrapper that was on the ground so I have to take that away from him mid-mouth shove.  We decide on some tickle time with a dash of rolling around and standing up with Mommy's help.  

4:30 - Ok, time to start being productive.  I guess I'll get up and start to clean up the kitchen and think about what's for dinner.  Who am I kidding, it will be chicken like most other nights of the week.  Maybe I'll whip up some cupcakes too.  Those sound good.  It's always easier without extra little hands all up in my business, though I love the cuteness of her help, she can sleep this one out.  C'mon Gavin, to the kitchen we go... or on the floor near the kitchen at least.

4:50 - Still no sign of cupcakes.  The kitchen is only slightly cleaner, where did 20 minutes go?  Story of my life.

5:06 - Arriah is still sleeping but my spidey senses are tingling telling me that she will be up soon.  A part of me hopes she will because now I'm looking a few hours in my future about how late this night will be.  Yikes.  I have officially started dinner though and, as expected, chicken.  Dressed it up with some marinara sauce and grated mozzarella cheese on top.  Sort of a chicken parm without the breading, or the parmesan... lol.  I would have done it had I thought of it.  Let's see, maybe I'll do roasted potatoes? A salad? Garlic bread? Eh, I'll wing it. 



5:37 - Everything takes twice as long and is twice as difficult because I'm fully cooking dinner with a baby in my arms.  And he is a curious fella that is reaching and leaning for anything that sparkles.  You know what sparkles?  Knives.  You know what I am needing to use for dinner?  Knives.  Those two things don't mix well.  Ya, you guys get it.  The struggle is real.  On the plus side, my little love bug woke up from her nap 20 or so minutes ago and those cute little helping hands are right in the middle of everything just like I love (and hate) them to be.  She's a great helper.  How else are the noodles going to get stirred? 



It is glaringly obvious that cupcakes are not happening tonight but I'm perfectly fine with that because I remember that I bought COOKIE BUTTER CHEESECAKE from Trader Joe's.  Ya... I can't wait.  It better be amazing, how could it not be?  I'll let you guys know.

5:40 - Mommy: "Arriah, please don't hang on the refrigerator"
          Arriah: "Ya, that's not a good idea"

5:41 - Mason and his friend are hanging out in the living room playing video games or something.  He helps with Gavin as much as possible but nothing is as good as being held by mommy.  Meanwhile, my arms might just break off.

5:43 - Arriah has on one rain boot and leggings.  She asks for a snack because she can't bare to wait for dinner to be done so I cut her up a pear.  When she's done she throws the entire bowl in the garbage.

5:48 - It's crunch time for dinner so I could use my hands back.  Let's see if Gavin will take his last nap of the day.

6:01 - Success.  Ya know?  It's really worth it to take the extra few minutes to make sure the baby is really asleep.  If you rush it, they will be up in 10 minutes, or he will at least.  I also am feeling pretty happy that in a pitch black room I know when we've reached that point just by holding him.  I don't need to see his eyes or hear his deep breath to know he's asleep.  Maybe it's the lack of wiggles or coos but I also think mom just knows, and that feels good.  Anyway, dinner time!

6:08 - "Arriah, please go put some pants on, we need to wear pants at the dinner table".  Oh, the fun of potty training.  I get Arriah her plate ready and blow on it until it's reached the perfect 98 degrees.  Now, finally my turn.

6:30 - Gavin's awake just in time for dessert and, let-me-tell-you.  This Cookie Butter Cheesecake is every bit as delicious as you would want it to be.  I highly recommend it.  Trader Joe's.  $6.99.  Go.  Go now.



6:46 - Me, Mason, Mason's friend, Uncle Bunny (aka Brad) and Arriah are BS'ing at the dinner table until the Sharks game starts.  Go Sharks.  I better make quick work of the messy kitchen so I can actually watch the game.  I get distracted by taking out all the garbage in the house and decide that if the kids go down at a decent hour (not likely) I might try to meet my friend at the gym.

7:07 - "Arriah, please don't play with that."
7:10 - "Arriah, please don't jump on the couch"
7:12 - "Arriah, please don't jump on the bed"

This is why it takes me until 7:25 to even get to the kitchen.  So much for "quick work" eh?  Meanwhile, Mason's friend has left and he has fallen asleep in his chair.  How he sleeps with all the banging of dishes and fussing of children, I don't know.  Oh wait, yes I do.  He's been up and working since the middle of the night.  Duh Britt.  Poor guy. 




8:18 - Finally finish cleaning the kitchen with no lack of struggles from the children.  Mason has made his way to bed because he has to do it all over again tomorrow.  PJ and diaper time for Arriah and Gavin.  We brush Arriah's teeth and mid toothpaste I realize my foot is wet.  Yup... It's pee.  While cleaning it up I'm just hoping it's Arriah's.  Gavin's calling out "mama, mama" on the floor.  Melts my heart. 



8:23 - Ok, story time.  I tell myself "I'm almost there... I'm almost there."  Arriah reads us Scuffy the Tugboat while I feed Gavin.




8:38 - Done with books, she's been good today so I'll let her watch the Beauty and the Beast music video on YouTube while she lays in her bed.  Gavin is rolling around on the floor and catches a second wind of energy.  Oh goodie.  

9:05 - Gym is not looking too promising but I'm not surprised.  It was a nice thought.  Gavin and I are watching the Sharks game (they're losing, also not too promising).  Please go to sleep soon Gavin.  He's being very wiggly so I set him down on the kitchen floor for one second and he falls on his face and starts to cry.  He's sad, I feel horrible. 



9:15 - Someone's starting to get tired.  Don't get too excited, he's fooled you before.  I have come to terms with the fact that the gym is not happening but on the bright side, more time for laundry or picking up six billion toys off the living room floor or blogging.  Gavin is most of the way asleep.  Against my better judgement, I sit down and he wakes up.  Why did I do that? Stupid, stupid, stupid. 



9:32 - I lay Gavin down in his bassinet and I realize I've had to pee for more than an hour.   #momlife  Shark's game is over; we lose to the Ducks.  It's starting to get quiet in this house.  I hear the faint sound of Arriah reading and talking to herself in her room through the monitor (that's what a late nap gets ya).  Elf is on TV so I choose that tonight but usually this is where I Keep Up With the Kardashian's or get lost in the world of Shonda Rhymes.  Grey's Anatomy and Scandal are my jam.  Sometimes I turn on The Ellen Show with the intention of a light giggle in the background while I get stuff done around the house and I end up sanding in the middle of the living room for an hour every dang time.

9:48 - Fighting off the urge to snack.  No eating after 9, that's my rule.  I still hear Arriah faintly in her room but it's becoming quieter and quieter with longer stretches in between.  She's on her way out but my goodness I can't believe she's still awake.

9:54 - *Silence*... Everyone's asleep but me.  I'm in the recliner on my computer (working on this monster of a blog) and the creepiest toy of all time that growls when you move it starts making noise.  Ew.

Most nights my goal is to be in bed by 10-10:30.  That's not happening tonight.  I also consider myself lucky that Gavin has stayed asleep.  More often than not he wakes up a few times before I get there and needs to be fed or rocked back to sleep.

When the time has finally come for my day to end, I do a security check and make sure all the doors are locked and the lights are off.  I sneak into Arriah's room to remove all the books she has covered herself in and cover her back up with her blankets that she has kicked off.  Once I'm in our room, I check on Gavin, ok he's good.  I wash my face, brush my teeth, and pull the covers of the bed up so that only my face is showing.  I have to get ready to do it all again tomorrow. 



Gavin wakes up just as I crawl in but with a few snuggles, he's back in his bassinet.  He'll probably join me in bed sometime after Daddy leaves for work.

Today was a good day.  I had coffee today so my patience was able to sustain what may have otherwise sent me over the edge.  That's not always the case but good day or bad, cooperative kids or grumps, I'm blessed.  Those are my last thoughts as I go to sleep.  I'm so thankful for my beautiful family and the food we were able to buy.  I'm thankful for my husband who works SO incredibly hard 6 days a week, 2 of which are double days, and the fact we have a roof over our heads, reliable cars and our health.  So many people don't so I try not take them for granted.

Good night world.


Monday, November 9, 2015

Mommy Confessions; Part 1

Disclaimer:  Let me start by saying I do my best every single day to be the best mom I can be.  I am also confident that I do a pretty good job of that.  But I'm human.  I make mistakes and I am writing this hoping that those reading it will set judgement aside and realize that I would never purposely put my children in danger or hurt them.  Nor would I exploit my imperfections within something I work so hard at if I felt like they would be used against me.  I am writing this hoping to make ONE other parent feel better about "those days" or those times they have reached their breaking point.  We have all been there.  Sometimes it's because of the kids, sometimes they are the straw that breaks the camel's back but either way, it happens.  I'm not going to pretend like I'm proud of these things... that's why they are called "confessions" but I know I'm not the only one and I'm here to tell you that neither are you.



So here is what happened:

It had been a long day.  Arriah is very much a 2 year old, testing every boundary and perfecting her pronunciation of the world "no".  Gavin is a mommy's boy at this stage of his life so I need to be holding him or within a 5 foot radius at all times.  Sweet but exhausting.  I try so hard to be the bigger person but by bedtime all my patience cards have been played.  I really just feel like throwing something sometimes.

So tonight, I did.  A beanbag chair at my daughters head.  Not out of anger.  Relax...   She thought it was hilarious, and it was.  And it was gentle... at first.  But then the more I did it, the harder she laughed.  So I stepped up my game.  She was jumping on her bed (which she has gotten numerous time-outs for) and I decided to turn this into a friendly variation of bowling.  Let's see if I can knock her down with the beanbag chair.  And I did.  And it was just as hilarious as you would imagine.  She was full belly laughing and throwing the chair back (See? It's a small chair) saying "Again! Again!" This went on for about 30 minutes and, guess what?  After that, I felt so much better.  She had fun and so did I.  No one got hurt or close to it.  That was never the intention.  Am I proud for getting so much enjoyment out of trying to knock my daughter down with a beanbag chair? No, but it was exactly what I needed so I'm not sorry.

It just goes to show, sometimes you need to be unorthodox with your anger management.  Switch things up to get through the day.  This will not be a game we play regularly but whenever I get sad or frustrated, I will watch that video (of course I took a video) and laugh just like I did tonight.

So there is my first Mommy Confession.  There are more that I will continue to share along the way.  Some funny, some not so much but parenting definitely has a learning curve and sometimes we all have to learn the hard way. Or nail a 2 year old with a beanbag chair.


Bulls-eye

See? She thinks it's hilarious.

"Again mommy! Again!" 

Saturday, November 7, 2015

25 Ways I Know You're A Mom

Wanna know how I know you're a mom?

If...

1) you can be making breakfast for one child while breastfeeding another.

2) you can change laundry, do your make up, fold a blanket, or cook dinner with one hand.

3) you pee with a baby on your lap; wipe, pants up & all.

4) it takes your kid spitting up on you at least 3 times for you to change your shirt.

5) you pick someone else's boogers regularly.

6) cats are "kitties", dogs are "doggies", birds are "birdies".... And so on.

7) you are more excited about new kids books than your kid is because that means you don't have to read the same ones you've already read 962 times.

8) you come home from the store with something for everyone in your house but yourself.

9) it takes twice as long to get ready, you have to start to leave the house 30 min before you actually need to leave and you're still late.

10) you never have any Spray and Wash.

11) wiping out the same pan you used for eggs yesterday to make eggs today is completely acceptable. 

12) you refer to your child's age in weeks or months.

13) there is a package of wipes and a box of toys in every room of your house and each of your cars.

14) you have a snack and a change of clothes with you at all times. 

15) you own a Mickey Mouse waffle maker.

16) you haven't had a hot meal in weeks.

17) you are the first one up and the last one to bed.

18) you know that your daughter's left slipper is under the middle cushion of the couch.

19) you have no memory left on your phone.

20) you can poop in 4 minutes flat.

21) Christmas has regained it's magic.

22) your kid is one of the funniest people you know.

23) the most frustrating thing in your life is when you know you're child is tired but won't go to sleep.

24) everyone has a jacket but you.

And lastly...

25) if sometimes minutes seem like hours and hours seem like days but when you really think about it, you would do just about anything to slow down time and keep your child(ren) in the beautiful innocent stage they are in for just a little longer.  

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Things I Wish I Knew Before A Baby

I am certainly no expert but 2 kids in, there are some things I wish I had known off the bat.  Different things work for different moms or kids or families but this is what I've learned.   

Things I Wish I Had Known Before I Had a Baby

- Buy used!  Some things should be new but kids go through stuff in a blink so find another mom with an older kid or look on Craigslist for used clothes, swings, gear, etc.  

- Baby clothes sizes are not literal.  My daughter wore newborn clothes until she was almost 6 months.  She is 20+ months now and still fits in 12m clothes.  My son, however, was born at almost 10 lbs and basically never fit in newborn.  

- Co-sleeping is a game changer.  (This is not for everyone and it needs to be done safely!) I tried to get my 1st to sleep in the bassinet for the first few months of her life and she didn't sleep more than an hour or 2 at a time.  Once I brought her to bed with us, we both slept like babies, literally.  My 2nd has been in bed with us from day 1 and he basically sleeps through the night.

- You and your child will eventually develop your own language.

- Pregnancy brain & Mommy brain is a very real thing.

- You will think your child is giving you a hug or a kiss but really they are wiping boogers on you.

- You will get thrown up on.  Probably a lot.  And you will be more concerned with how you are going to find time to take a shower.  

- Aveeno soap is NOT tear free.  Johnson's is.  

- Your baby's poop tells you everything you need to know.

- You will care less about touching your baby's poop than your own.

- Your baby will still be the cutest baby in the world even if he/she doesn't have hair.

- The hair WILL grow.

- There are some things that are nice to have another mom's opinion or kid comparison on but the most successful parenting style is the one you figure out for yourself.

- You will care A LOT less about those sleepless nights than you think.  At least if you're going to be awake in the middle of the night, it's to hang out with your awesome kid.

- When they ARE sleeping, you'll miss them.

- For the first several months of their life you will bathe around their sleep schedule.

- It never fails that as soon as you get in the shower you will mysteriously hear a phantom baby cry.

- Not everyone gets that "pregnancy glow".

- You could work out every day of your pregnancy and still get "fat" but don't worry, that's what's suppose to happen. 

- You will consider only having one kid because you will convince yourself that there is NO way you could ever love another human being as much as you love that one.  Then you do.

- You will inevitably and accidentally hurt them at some point.  Probably more than once.  And you will feel horrible about it for a very long time but everyone does it.  

- Moms cry when their babies get shot at the doctor.  That's just what happens.

- Your kids will be one of the funniest people you know.

- They will do something that amazes you every single day.

- Enjoy walking around naked.  After you have a baby, fluids will be flowing from every orifice and need to be covered.

- You will pee yourself at some point.

- You will want to cry over spilled milk.  Breast milk.  

- Nap time is just as much for you and your sanity as it is for them.  

Sunday, November 30, 2014

I'm A Real Adult Now

   I hate that waking up in the morning to a clean kitchen starts my day off right.  I hate that I am the type of person who makes my bed everyday, throw pillows and all.  I hate that I find pure satisfaction and fulfillment in having a clean house and fed family.  Not that any of those things are bad things, they're not.  It just means I'm a real grown up now.  I miss being a kid.  Where Mac N' Cheese or Cup O' Soup every night for dinner was fine and didn't matter.  Make my bed? HA! Only if I was going to collect an allowance for it.  No one is paying me to make my bed, in fact, some days it actually cuts into the time where I could be at work making money.  I'm a real adult now.  I HAVE a kid and a husband and there is nothing in life that brings me more joy than those things and I know that's what I've traded for not caring about messes and dreading homework.  It was a great trade, I traded up for sure but it's crazy to me to think that I'm in that place already.  It seems like last month I was packing up my room for college.  I've grown up and it makes me sad to think those days are gone forever.  The most I can hope for now is that my kids have a great childhood like I did.  I truly believe that a solid childhood helps to shape the type of person you'll be when you get older.  If you are loved and have fun when you're young, a parent can only hope that you'll grow up to be an adult who makes their bed everyday or who gets giddy when all the laundry is done.  It shows responsibility.
    I think another thing that makes me... we'll say "nervous", is I can feel that I have a great balance in my life right now.  I have a routine and schedule that everyone in my house is happy with.  I'm able to get everything done and still have time to blog or watch Scandal.  What worries me is nothing stays the same.  Even if I can hold onto it for the next 5 months, it's all going to change when the new baby comes.  I'll have another person to feed and change and take care of.  That much more laundry to do and our balanced life will be tossed upside down.  I have no doubt it will be worth it a thousand times over.  I know how much I love Arriah and how much fun I have with her.  I would do anything for her and I know I'll feel that way about the new baby but he's going to throw a wrench in our soup and it's going to take another year (or longer) to get that wonderful balance back.  But we did it once and we'll do it again.  I just know it's going to be hard and I don't want it to be but we'll make it work.  Just do it and push through until we're back in this spot.


Thursday, September 11, 2014

Arriah's 1st Birthday [Party]

Arriah is wonderful, or should I say One-derful.  ;-)  She amazes me every single day and that's not an exaggeration.  She talks so much, she uses sign language at the appropriate times, she is curious and adventurous and beautiful.  We are so proud of her.  We just had her 1st birthday party (which was a lot of work but a success) and like they say, time goes by WAY too fast. 

The morning of the birthday party started by helping herself to one of the cupcakes.  A little early cake-smash if she does say so herself... haha.  Really, all there is to do is take a pictures and laugh.   It's her party she can eat cupcakes if she wants to.   





Her birthday party was a fun way to unleash my crafty side.  I did a few projects that kept me busy, all after she went to bed, of course.  


The first project was her Invitations:






"One little candle, One little cake, One 1st year to celebrate"

I'm pretty happy with how they turned out actually.  The picture above isn't great but I think they were pretty cute. 

- I got the dark purple (textured/card stock) paper from Joann's.  The light purple paper is just regular paper in a lilac color.  And the front/white paper is regular card stock. 
- I had to get the envelopes before I could make the invites to know how big the paper needed to be.  In my case they were 5x8"
- I used my paper cutter to cut to the appropriate sizes and glue sticks to glue them all together.  I saved the excess paper for other projects.  (See highlight board)
- I obviously had to print up the white card stock first before I could glue everything.
- That is a real candle.  I found some cute purple ribbon at Joann's (on sale) and realized I needed a lot more so I found the same stuff at Walmart.  Tying little bows around little candles is easier said than done, let me tell ya. 
- Then I used hot glue to sick the candles to the invites.



Big Fluffy '1':




- For this project, I started with a large white poster board and cut out a 1.


- Next I covered the 1 in light purple paper.  In hind-sight I should have either painted it in a darker purple or not done it at all.  I think the point of doing it is so that if there are gaps in the tissue paper, it blends a little better but I put so many little pieces of tissue on there it wasn't really a problem.

- Then I cut up a gazillion little squares of purple tissues paper, bunched each square in the center and used a hot glue gun to stick them on.  It took a LOOONNNGGG time but it was cute.  Maybe it was worth it, maybe it wasn't.  Oh well.
- I bought the poster board from Office Depot and in the same section they have poster board stands that stick directly to the board.  They come in a pack of 6 so I used one of those to stand it up.  Maybe 2 (one on the left and one on the right) would have worked better?


Highlight Board:





I don't want to be a braggy mom but I do seem to get asked the same questions by everyone and there is a lot to be proud of with this little girl so the highlight board was a fun and easy way to wrap it all into one.


- Again, I started with a large poster board (from Office Depot)

- I had some left over paper from her invitations so I used that (and a glue stick) for the boarder.
- I printed out her name and all the fun facts ahead of time.  I liked using different colors and fonts for each thing.  It adds dimension and makes it a little more aesthetically pleasing. Don't forget the swirls/hearts for fillers. 
- Next, I cut it up and just had to arrange everything.  I placed it all on the board before I glued it in case any changes needed to be made. 
- Then I just glue-sticked it up.
- I did feel like there needed to be a little separation between the things so I used a sharpie to draw lines under and around each thing.


Birthday Banner:








This was was really easy.


- Print out each letter fairly large on a piece of paper.  I took it too far and alternated colors for each letter so if you want to do that, pay attention what color paper each letter is printing on. 

- Cut out the letters and squares that are slightly larger than the letter
- Use a glue stick to paste letters on larger squares. 
- Lay letters out in correct order ahead of time.
- Use scissors to cut small slices at the top of each letter and slide a ribbon through the top.
- Leave extra ribbon on either side for hanging.  And you're done!


Table Runners:


Easy but VERY time consuming.  I say it's worth it though. 




- I had the lilac paper left over from the invitations so I figured out how long I wanted the runners to be and glued several (in my case 8) pieces of paper together length wise/end to end.  That ended up being about 88" and was just barely hanging off either side of the picnic benches.  Next time I would probably do 9 pieces. 

- I printed out about 140 of my favorite pictures of Arriah on plain paper.  I liked the 3x5 size for this purpose.  Each runner used about 20 +/- pictures and we needed 7 runners.  I didn't have any pictures left over.
- Cut them to size
- Use a glue stick to apply them to the runner.  I sorta paid attention to her age in the pictures and whether they were vertical or horizontal so I could have a variety.  I also did roughly 2-3 facing one way, then 2-3 facing the opposite way since there would be people sitting on both sides of the table.
- I liked this idea because it was a great conversation pieces since everyone was sitting around the tables anyway.  There was a TON of pictures to look at and not all of them had been posted on Facebook.  It showed her in all stages and also, visually, added a little extra to the tables. 
-  NOTE: For transport, we folded them in half or gently rolled them.  I'm saving them because you never know when we could use them again.  They were so cute!


Birthday Outfit (Onesie):


This was probably the easiest project out of the whole party.





The purple tutu, crown headband & matching wand (not pictured) was all purchased from Target.  

- I bought plain white onesies
- Picked out fabric that I like and thought would match her tutu.  You only need a small amount.  At Joann's they sell in as small as 1/8 yard and that should be plenty, even if you messed up and wanted to make 2.
- Printed up a fancy '1' that I liked and cut it out.
- I traced the 1 backwards onto the back of the fabric so it would be facing the right way but my pen marks wouldn't be visible.  
- I peeled one side of Aleene's Peel & Stick Sheets (purchased at Joann's but available at most craft stores) and stuck it to the fabric.  (See Warning Below)

- Then I cut out the 1

- Peeled off the second side and placed directly onto the onesie.  
WARNING: Peel and Stick sheets are VERY sticky.  Use as little of your finger as possible when applying both to fabric and to the onesie.  Seriously.... SOOOO STICKY.
- I added a little extra design with purple puff paint.  I just followed the lines that were on the 1 from the original font and did a little outlining.  I feel like, in this case, less was more.  


Smash Cupcake & Frosting:


Call me a granola mama or over protective or whatever but my 1 year old didn't need all the sugar and artificial crap that is in the box cupcake and frosting for her Smash Cupcake, even if it was her birthday.  So I made her a (slightly) healthier, (slightly) more nature option.  A banana muffin.




I make these muffins regularly anyway because they're so easy and so good.  


Banana Muffins: 


Ingredients:


2.5 cups old fashioned oats1 cup plain/vanilla yogurt2 eggs3/4 cup sugar {or sweetener of choice}1.5 tsp baking powder1/2 tsp baking soda2 ripe bananas 
Blueberries {optional}


Directions:1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Spray tin with non-stick cooking spray.  (From my experience, directly in the cupcake pan comes out significantly better than if you use cupcake liners.  But either is fine.)2. Place all of the ingredients, including bananas in a blender or food processor, and blend until oats are smooth. {I added the oats a cup at a time and blended in between}3. Divide batter among cups (or cupcake liners)
**Baking times may vary**


4. Add blueberries, a few at a time, into each cup.

5. Bake for 15-20 minutes for liners or 20-30 if directly in cups.  Tops will be golden brown.  Check with a toothpick until it comes out clean.  


Butter-Cream Frosting:

Ingredients:
cups powdered sugar1/3 cup butter or margarine, softened1 1/2 teaspoons vanillato 2 tablespoons milk or whipping cream
Directions:
1. In medium bowl, mix powdered sugar and butter with spoon or electric mixer on low speed. Stir in vanilla and 1 tablespoon of the milk.
2. Gradually beat in just enough remaining milk to make frosting smooth and spreadable. If frosting is too thick, beat in more milk, a few drops at a time. If frosting becomes too thin, beat in a small amount of powdered sugar. Frosts 13x9-inch cake generously, or fills and frosts an 8- or 9-inch two-layer cake.

After the muffin/cupcake was made and cooled, I used a piping bag and large star tip to frost for a rose-looking end result.  


The cupcakes for the rest of the party were made with box cupcake mix and premade frosting and it still took me forever.  The weird thing was that, I used the Wilson food dye to turn the vanilla frosting purple and after sitting in the sun for a few minutes, the frosting turned blue! 



It was a long fun day.  After a few falls, scrapes, bumps, and bruises, she was dirty and pooped!  






As for her actual birthday, her parents are idiots and planned her 1 year check-up ON her actual birthday and, of course, she had to have shots that day so that was a long day and night it was and it's all my fault.  I feel horrible.  She ended up getting a little bit of a fever and I could tell she wasn't feeling well and her legs were sore from getting poked.  Ugh, I won't make that mistake again and at least she's too young to really remember, right?


A year has already gone by and I barely blinked.  I will soak up every second of this coming year because before I know it, she'll be off to preschool.  *tear* But we won't think about that.






Happy Birthday Arriah!  Mommy & Daddy love you so much! 

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Things I Miss as a Mommy

I have been a mom for almost a year now (Wow! Where has time gone?!) and by now I would say I have got a loose handle on it, which isn't much, but I try.  Life is ever-changing with a baby and I wouldn't have it any other way.  One day she's rolling over, the next she's walking around the living room for the first time.  She's a busy bee and doing exactly what babies do but life gets crazy and priorities change so in midst of taking care of 1... no 2 other people (I forget sometimes, I'm also a wife), mom gets forgotten about and there are a few things I miss:

1)  My gym time
     Before and even while I was pregnant I would get my butt out of bed and hit the gym in the morning.  It was the perfect way to start the day.  It gave me energy and confidence, it kept me in shape, made me happy and healthy and established a routine for my day.  It encouraged me to eat better and be more active in general.  At the gym I didn't care how I looked, I was there to sweat.  It was MY place, MY zone.  I knew where everything was at, I saw familiar faces and challenged myself every day.  It was my "thing" and I felt at home in the gym.  Now, being Arriah's mom is my "thing" so I've definitely upgraded but it's quite different having my "thing" be working hard for someone else's well being instead of my own.  But the return is a whole other level of accomplishment.  After I went to the gym, I would come home all gross and sweaty and jump in the shower adrenalin pumping, feeling good then get out and go on with my day.  Now, I am proud all day long of the little girl we are raising.

2) Showering
     It sounds gross and well, it kinda is.  Before motherhood I would shower every day like a normal person.  I would smell good, do my hair, all the things that of a woman in the Western Civilization does.  That is SO not the case anymore.  I'm lucky to put on deodorant and brush my teeth in the morning. There's just too much other stuff going on!  "Uh-oh, Arriah's heading for the power cords, now she's trying to eat cat food, now she's chasing the cats, careful, that has a sharp corner, now she's got a dirty diaper or hungry or tired or....." yea.  You get the point.  What's a mom suppose to do with a busy girl for 15 minutes while she showers?  If she falls and bonks her head, I have to jump out of the shower, shampoo in my eyes and save her.  Hug and kiss her while I'm all wet and dripping all over the bathroom floor.  Heaven forbid it's leg shaving day and I have to add a few minutes to my bathing routine (poor Mason). Thankfully, our house has a baby-gate friendly bathroom as long as I'm quick.  Block her in, give her a few toys, make sure no cords or dangerous things are hanging around and bathe like the wind.  I'm sure my neighbors think I'm crazy because after a few minutes, she's figured me out and is knocking on the glass wanting my attention so I talk to her or sing or make a fool of myself however I can to entertain her long enough to clean the lint from between my toes.  Ugh, at least we're saving on the water bill?

3) Painting my nails
     Since I was a little girl I LOVED doing my nails and almost always had my nails painted.  I would do them myself or go get them done and it made me feel like a woman.  These days, I can't get my hands free long enough to do my big toe let alone take off any nail polish that has somehow survived the months of grueling torture, 20 nails, 2-3 coats each, buff, file, and dry.  Umm... yea.  Not-Gonna-Happen!  Or let's see, either spend $60 on a mani-pedi or go grocery shopping and feed my family for a week?  I would love for that to be an easy decision in my favor but it's not even an option.  My man is working his buns off to make sure we have what we need and we can live a comfortable life so there is no friggin way I'm gonna ask him to watch Arriah for an extra hour when he should probably be sleeping AND then go spend our hard-earned money to have pretty fingers and toes.  No one cares.

4) Sleeping through the night
     My name is Brittany and it as been 15 months, 2 weeks and 4 days since I've had a full nights sleep.  My kid is only 9 months old but if you think the whole "waking up 100 times a night" starts AFTER the baby is born, you are sadly mistaken my friend.  Pregnant chicks have to pee like every 10 minutes and that's pretty much true at all hours of the day and night but most of us don't want to get our swollen cankles out of bed that often so we hold it in as long as we possibly can before we get up, which is still every couple of hours.  [True Story:  I was about 8 months pregnant when I had to pee so bad I was run-waddling to the bathroom as quickly as I could and because you can't see your feet at that point, I kicked the door frame to the bathroom and broke my pinkie toe.]  Anyway, if it's not your pea sized bladder its crazy dreams, or being too hot or too cold, or the baby crushing your lungs.  You can't sleep on your back because it will cut off circulation, your right side goes numb and your husband is breathing in your face on the left and even though you are surrounded by pillows in a full 360 degrees, there is no hope for comfort.  Trust me ladies, if you're sleeping through the night, enjoy it.  Live it up, because you will miss it when it's gone.

5) A clean house
     I remember being a kid and complaining to my mom that she was always cleaning.  Well, yea.  She probably was because with 3 kids you are never going to be done with laundry, dishes, sweeping, and dusting.  I have a whole new perspective now.  It's hard for me to see a mess and not clean it up, I like things clean and put away but sometimes I'm just too damn tired or Arriah or Mason is just more important.  I have tried to consciously decide to NOT clean for a day and spend that time doing something for me or being with my family.  Having a clean house is not the most important thing but last week's chicken dish soaking the sink is going to drive me crazy until it's clean.  And with a baby who's so low to the ground and crawling on the floor, she sees every little dust bunny or stale Cherrio and, as with everything else, it goes right in her mouth.   So cleaning HAS to be done but just as soon as you fold those 12 loads of laundry, she pees on the changing table and you need to run another load.  What I would give to sit down at the end of the day to a clean house, full belly, and watch some TV knowing everything is done.  I used to have that but now, I'm stepping over toys in every room and scraping the peas off the high chair.  Here's the truth; A messy house is a happy house, it means it's lived in.  And though having my house clean is important to me, there are so many other more important things.  So if you come over and see the cobwebs hanging from the ceiling or clothes strewn about our living room, it's because we are a happy family with a busy life and sometimes I want to play with my daughter instead of scrub dishes.

As a parent you do have to sacrifice a lot for your children and there's a lot that will never be the same, like my body, or shopping, or getting ready without being interrupted but don't let anyone tell you it's not worth it a million times over.  She is worth every change in my life and I would give up all those things and so much more any day of the week.  She is a gift and for everything she's "taken" she has given me something infinitely better.  She's my world, my best friend, and her and Mason have given me the best year of my life.  It's okay to be honest and say becoming a mommy changes things.  Obviously I wouldn't trade a single screaming, crying, poopy second, and I mean that! I treasure every single one because she's my mini-me.  I think about her constantly, I miss her when she's asleep in the other room, and can't wait to wake up and play with her in the morning.  She's so smart and growing so quickly I don't want to blink or I might miss it.  Her smile lights me up and our family is so much more of a family now with her in our lives.  There is just no comparison.